No Mystery. Where’s the Mystery?

Say that you're going on a guided tour and it's a beautiful area.

You're seeing all the history and you're getting all of this information that's really interesting.

I want to say that if you are having trouble connecting with people in that tour, or you're just not having that great of a time, it's not your fault.

I remember one time I was at a retreat right outside of Barcelona and it was so amazing because they finished giving their speech about something and after they were done all of us were feeling great.

I was like, ‘Man, you know, doesn't it feel like we should dance right now?’

And then the whole room kind of just did this, ‘Yeah, Cody, we should dance.’

And then the organizer was like, ‘What's stopping us?’

He brings out a speaker, turns on some reggaeton music and then before we know it, the whole group, all ages, are doing this dance together and we dance for like five minutes.

That was allowed because they made space for mystery in the gathering.

When you go, okay, I actually don't know everything that's going to be happening right now.

If you try to plan everything out to the T, then you're going to be in your mind most of the time and a lot of successful gatherings are when you kind of like let a little mystery into the door.

What's this person going to do?

How's this person going to act?

What are we going to do together?

What's someone going to say that's going to determine how the whole group engages with each other today?

~Cody McGraw